As we grow and age, life happens, and we learn things in the process. Hopefully. I have seen such posts in other blogs, listing some life learnings for the blogger's birthday, and I have decided to do the same today, as I turn 29, this last precious year of the defining decade.
Here are some small things I learned over time, which I found to be decisive to my growth as a human being, to my well-being, and overall happiness. Of course, these are only my opinions, but I wish I could go back in time and explain these simple things to my younger self. I hope some of these may be of use to you too.
1. Objects, possessions, salary and other material things are not quite as important as society wants us to believe. Real success and happiness have nothing to do with these.
2. What you spend your time on is much more important to your well-being than the amount of money you earn or the collection of objects you own.
3. A healthy body you feel good in, and good about, should be your physical goal, not to weigh "less than 50 kg".
4. There is so much more to you than how you look. Anyone who doesn't realize that doesn't deserve your time or approval.
5. No amount of expensive clothes or elaborate make-up will replace the positive effect of self confidence and inner peace on your looks.
6. You have the right to be who you are. No matter if it doesn't fit the social standards, as long as it makes you comfortable in your shoes and happy about yourself.
7. Moving about is important, even if you don't like sports. Even the smallest effort has a silent but real effect on well-being. Walking a bit more every day, taking the stairs...
8. There is no reason to stop learning new things. Ever.
9. Discover and learn about topics you like. There is no need to pollute your brain and waste your time on things you don't care about, even if it's "a classic", or "trendy".
10. Culture is key to open-mindedness and helps seeing the world in a very different way, through somebody else's eyes. May it be travels, books, films, music, series, video games...
11. The important of slowing down is underestimated in today's society where "busy" is glorified. These instants are all we have, it's our whole life, we should be taking our time to live these experiences.
12. One key element of discovering yourself and grow is mindfulness. Stop yourself from running on automatic, notice the things around you, question things, be mindful about your environment, but also the truths you are told and the things you believe.
13. Nothing is "impossible". It's about what really matters, and what it takes for you to achieve it. Most of the barriers to achieving something come from our own minds.
14. We are the masters of our own lives. There is much to benefit from around us - from the Internet, all the culture available, all the technology, but it is our choices that free us, or ensnare us in a deadly routine.
15. Being mindful of other people's feelings is important, but the only person you really need to get the approval of, and values/moral agreement with, is yourself.
16. Whatever you do, no matter which choices you make, some people will disapprove. And that's OK, as long as you are in peace with your decisions.
17. You don't always need to explain yourself or justify your choices, as long as you take responsibility for your words and actions.
18. Social relations is something to be nurtured. Relying on "social people" to animate your social life is dangerous as these people could disappear from your life. Making a few calls and organizing a few things now and then are small things that go a long way.
19. Nobody is "acquired", may it be family, friends, spouse. Something could happen, life could draw you apart, or a terrible accident, so it is important not to leave important things unsaid. It is also important to be there for those who count, even during difficult times.
20. You can't expect from people to behave toward you the way you would. Or to read your mind, or to put you in front of everyone else. Welcome the help, but don't take it personally if people aren't up to your standards.
21. We are all responsible for our choices and reactions. You may not be responsible for someone's offensive behavior, but don't forget you are responsible for being offended, or taking something at heart. Reminding myself of this helped letting go of many useless daily torments.
22. Creativity seems to be a part of human beings. A part of our souls maybe? I can't figure out why, but engaging is some form of creative activity seems highly beneficial to well-being, gives a sense of purpose maybe?
23. Listen to yourself, what do you like to do, what makes you lose track of time? Some of us have been lucky to test various things when we were children and find a "calling", but if you haven't, maybe it's worth attending trial sessions of various activities that sound interesting to you. Who knows, there might still be a new passion to find.
24. It is important to find time for these creative endeavors. Society tells us it's unimportant, we can't make money with it, we can never be successful. But if there is something you really want to pursue, you can find a way to do it, even with a family, even with a day job.
25. Creativity and DIY activities can be a great way to spend time with children: making things together, teaching them to try stuff, letting them express themselves.
26. It's never too late to start learning a new creative activity. There is no need to become a virtuoso or a master craftsman, as long as it's fun and fulfilling.
27. Be induglent with yourself, but always do your best. Your best may be top notch one day, not so much the next. But as long as you know deep inside, that you are doing all you possibly can now, there is no reason to feel guilty or ashamed.
28. Mistakes are here to teach us something. Instead of punishing yourself for doing something wrong, ltake it as an opportunity to grow.
I hope you liked these 29 simple points. Of course, I'm still telling myself these things, sometimes living up to them, sometimes not so much. But I do my best (27)! What about you? Are there any important things you learned about yourself or life lately?