tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4278952973244360576.post1994879509718547251..comments2024-01-11T11:41:22.827+01:00Comments on Dream On: Shopping MotivationsAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18258704812525496584noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4278952973244360576.post-40912339974422863322013-12-02T14:17:27.033+01:002013-12-02T14:17:27.033+01:00C'est vrai qu'on fait moins d'erreurs ...C'est vrai qu'on fait moins d'erreurs d'achat en se connaissant mieux, j'ai remarqué la même chose ces dernières années, et pas seulement dans le domaine vestimentaire. Moi aussi, j'avais une tendance à acheter tout le matériel quand j'avais envie de me lancer dans une activité, et parfois une fois que je m'y mettais vraiment je me rendais compte que ça ne me plaisait pas tant que ça. Du coup je me restreins maintenant. Je trouve que c'est important de bien se connaître et de comprendre par quel type de situation on a tendance à être attiré, consciemment ou pas, ça aide beaucoup à trouver son équilibre personnel je trouve.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18258704812525496584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4278952973244360576.post-1186939686452542502013-11-30T15:52:18.685+01:002013-11-30T15:52:18.685+01:00Un exercice qu'il faudra que je fasse en décem...Un exercice qu'il faudra que je fasse en décembre tient, voir un peu quels ont été les déclencheurs de mes achats pour 2013 ! :) Pour le moment, j'ai peu de souvenirs quant à une éventuelle erreur d'acquisitions pour cette année, preuve à mes yeux que j'ai su mieux me connaitre au fil du temps, savoir quand les raisons sont valables ou non. Je n'ai jamais été une acheteuse compulsive non plus, mais je me reconnais dans certaines des raisons que tu cites dans ton article, en particulier conforter les nouvelles envies, l'initiation au changement (championne pour ça, j'ai parfois tendance à vouloir toute la panoplie avant de commencer quoi que ce soit. Un beau leurre, puisqu'au final ça ne fait que reculer la date où je dois vraiment me mettre à la dite chose!) et l'envie de nouveauté... <br />ma technique du moment : noter toutes mes envies un peu en vrac quand elles viennent dans mon carnet, et en début de chaque mois faire un tour sur ces listes pour gérer mes achats du mois. Ca peut faire un peu psychorigique comme ça, mais en fait non : la plupart du temps l'envie s'est envolée, ça me permet de gérer mon budget raisonnablement et j'y vois plus clair dans pas mal de choses. Et si une nouvelle envie plus "urgente" pointe son nez, je peux m'arranger avec ce que j'avais planifié.<br />La contrepartie des ces années d'interrogation? J'ai du mal à m'autoriser des achats parfois, même quand j'en ai besoin... ^^Ravenhttp://www.ombrelunaire.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4278952973244360576.post-72320679022562839192013-11-22T12:22:07.221+01:002013-11-22T12:22:07.221+01:00You're right, "distraction" is a ver...You're right, "distraction" is a very accurate shopping motivation! It's so easy to start browsing when you're kinda bored and don't want to think too much... I guess it's all about changing habits, train ourselves to distract ourselves with somehing else.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18258704812525496584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4278952973244360576.post-44284556265383386352013-11-20T14:50:42.743+01:002013-11-20T14:50:42.743+01:00Late to the comments party, but hey ho, that's...Late to the comments party, but hey ho, that's how I roll these days :) I can relate to all of this. With me it is so obvious that especially online shopping is linked to my emotions - if I am angry or upset I can spent entire evenings online looking for The Perfect Whatever just to distract myself. The other night I spent hours on the purse forum looking at Louis Vuitton bags in a fit of rage-y PMS. Luckily I usually don't end up buying anything, but it is still not a very healthy habit! Maja Hhttp://www.majahuse.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4278952973244360576.post-19400078675334378642013-11-12T10:42:46.684+01:002013-11-12T10:42:46.684+01:00It does, doesn't it? There is nothing like col...It does, doesn't it? There is nothing like colourful fresh flowers with a discreet scent to lighten up a room :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18258704812525496584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4278952973244360576.post-65399745514257319952013-11-11T01:24:09.392+01:002013-11-11T01:24:09.392+01:00Keep going with your photography, Kali! I like the...Keep going with your photography, Kali! I like the way you captured the texture of the sweater.<br /><br />I can definitely identify several themes in my own shopping as of late--it's a mixture of new needs and craving novelty. Going from a job that had a uniform to one with business casual dressing necessitated a major wardrobe resupply. Now that I'm at about 80% with that wardrobe, I'm buying random shirts to mix up my generally all-blue theme (like right now, I'm testing out plaid for fall and winter.) I'm ok with that, but I think sometimes those types of purchases make me unable to spend on "weak areas" of my clothing (I think you wrote a post about that re: pants.) I think if I exercised a little more mindfulness in the random restocking of my wardrobe (especially with shirts, of which I have more than enough) then I can have spending capital for needed coats or shoes.<br /><br />All in all, this is a splendid post to remind us to be more introspective about our motivations and desires. Thank you for the great read!<br /><br />Shutterbug Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14753859006730802394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4278952973244360576.post-26791188981091159122013-11-10T00:08:01.767+01:002013-11-10T00:08:01.767+01:00Such a detailed analysis of the "why" fo...Such a detailed analysis of the "why" for shopping, I love it! I certainly agree with a few of these, and I've found that the fresh flowers for the apartment trick works well when I need a change. Besides, fresh flowers on the kitchen table just make my day a little brighter :) Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00413377943169576514noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4278952973244360576.post-14860783630994158492013-11-09T11:33:19.619+01:002013-11-09T11:33:19.619+01:00It is true that is it s sort of "chicken and ...It is true that is it s sort of "chicken and egg situation", sometimes I wonder if reassessing my shopping habits made me feel better or if feeling better in the first place made the changes possible. I guess it is a virtuous circle in the end - you buy less/better, you feel good about this, feel better in your life, which helps in turn make further changes... Thank you for sharing your experience, it is interesting to see other people's shopping motivations as well.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18258704812525496584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4278952973244360576.post-87470065923955418092013-11-09T11:30:41.352+01:002013-11-09T11:30:41.352+01:00I've never considered this, drifting the "...I've never considered this, drifting the "new" feeling from material items to day to day spendings like groceries. Thanks for the tip, it's a very good idea! I guess this can also work with "consumables" like flowers, candles, incense stickes, tea leaves...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18258704812525496584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4278952973244360576.post-33647833283412711602013-11-08T11:37:29.985+01:002013-11-08T11:37:29.985+01:00this is so perceptive and well articulated, and ve...this is so perceptive and well articulated, and very useful to have laid out like this. the majority of my shopping used to be motivated by what you call 'compensating an insatisfaction' - there was a lot of things in my life that I was unhappy and frustrated with and I was trying to make myself feel better by buying cheap things which were exciting only for a few weeks. they only served to make me miserable in the end. I'm glad to say my life is much happier and more ordered now and my buying habits have altered accordingly. I, like you, still crave for novelty and the occasional cheap thrill, but the majority of my purchases are now for much more practical and considered reasons. <br /><br />it's sort of a chicken/egg situation - I don't know whether my life has altered for the better because I got a handle on my buying habits, or if I managed to get a handle on my buying habits because my life is better! a bit of both, I suspect. what an interesting relationship we have with the things we do and don't buy, I find it endlessly fascinating :)Fenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01966059407131419394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4278952973244360576.post-14322358103779282052013-11-08T06:52:48.607+01:002013-11-08T06:52:48.607+01:00I can definitely relate. What I've tried to d...I can definitely relate. What I've tried to do, is to get that "new" feeling from items I have to buy anyway - like groceries. I really enjoy cooking so trying out new recipes and buying the groceries for it fulfills that kind of need for me. Food is consumable and a necessary expense so I don't feel guilty at all. I try to stay away from recipes that require novelty items though so I don't end up cluttering my pantry with too many odds and ends (I still have too many spices).Monkeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05866229417383734998noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4278952973244360576.post-59997657524764423392013-11-07T20:49:11.854+01:002013-11-07T20:49:11.854+01:00Transition between univsersity and active life is ...Transition between univsersity and active life is a pivotal moment of life, enjoy it! It is normal that it takes up a lot of energy from you though, I guess it will be your main mental focus until you settle down. I find that writing blog posts about these subjects actually helps becoming more self aware of these things. When I started working on the draft of this post, there were only a couple of shopping motivations I thought about. And as I wrote on and thought about my latest purchases, others popped up. I find writing to be very revealing and helpful :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18258704812525496584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4278952973244360576.post-36078102013289247822013-11-07T20:46:29.796+01:002013-11-07T20:46:29.796+01:00Shopping fasts, successful or with slips, are a gr...Shopping fasts, successful or with slips, are a great teacher to what lies beyond the simple wardrobe items and purchase habits. Even though I only fasted for 2 months I learned a lot about myself during that period. I'm considering doing a winter fast this end of year to gather more thoughts on simplicity and how to handle a successfully reconstructed wardrobe. I went to take a look at your new blog, I like the concept a lot, I'll probably be following around in the future. Besides, it is always a source of inspiration to take a look at other petite women :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18258704812525496584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4278952973244360576.post-33526502722029992982013-11-07T20:43:08.727+01:002013-11-07T20:43:08.727+01:00Ah, boredom is a good point! I have a lot of activ...Ah, boredom is a good point! I have a lot of activities in my life but sometimes, I'm just wandering aimlessly on the internet, and that's true that I end up shuffling around online stores and blog archives and creating new needs for my home or closet... But it is true that they are often forgotten once activities start again. That's the kind of stuff I put on my unticked list, and if after several weeks or months I'm still thinking about it, then maybe I'm really on to something... I hope you have luck in finding your tailored jacket!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18258704812525496584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4278952973244360576.post-73436586550277077082013-11-07T20:40:26.476+01:002013-11-07T20:40:26.476+01:00It is true that the construction of a collection o...It is true that the construction of a collection of items can be a reason to purchase in itself, it has also been a reason for me these past years as I worked on my style. I even find it more enjoyable when you know yourself well and know what works best.<br /><br />Thanks for th compliment on the photo, I'm trying to post more personal photos on the blog now that I have a proper camera, even if I'm still a beginner...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18258704812525496584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4278952973244360576.post-89458802198618489352013-11-07T05:32:00.100+01:002013-11-07T05:32:00.100+01:00love how incredibly self-aware you are. i need to ...love how incredibly self-aware you are. i need to do some similar self-reflecting in the future. at this point in my life, the only big focus is to find a job and transition into it. i'm trying not to buy so much since i have little idea what industry i am in so i should really keep this in mind and stop buying so much "college" clothes! i think once i'm settled, i really (should) be good for a while.Joyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749027762662012409noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4278952973244360576.post-33491751184469231242013-11-06T19:36:16.630+01:002013-11-06T19:36:16.630+01:00Ah, your list resonates with me a lot! I was recen...Ah, your list resonates with me a lot! I was recently inspired to start a shopping fast as a way of reevaluating and curating my closet and have realized that clothing shopping mostly functions as a way for me to push away my emotions rather than recognizing and dealing with them directly. This motive has resulted in quite a few purchase regrets. In the future, I hope to be more mindful of why I am buying an item-- does it stem from a need to fill a specific wardrobe void, a need to mask a negative feeling, or a need to fill time? Anyways, thank you for sharing your list, it gives me a lot of food for thought :)<br><a href="http://closetedconsumption.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">Alma</a>Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01884905548845817151noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4278952973244360576.post-27805937375529527742013-11-06T16:29:40.433+01:002013-11-06T16:29:40.433+01:00My list quite similar, and a lot has to do with ho...My list quite similar, and a lot has to do with how I associate material things with happiness and satisfaction, to an extent. <br /><br />My biggest problem is shopping when I am stressed and pissed off; I'll usually buy something on impulse to cheer myself up and this is so easy when there's online shopping! <br /><br />I also shop when I get good news, like a raise or a promotion, because I want to reward myself. <br /><br />I also tend to feel like shopping when there's a change of season in the shops - when all the window displays change everything looks interesting and fresh and I get carried away by the effective marketing.<br /><br />I also tend to create "new needs" when I'm bored - I've been obsessed with trousers lately. I usually wear jeans and also have a few pairs of casual ones that are fine but I crave a perfectly tailored, elegant pair, just like how I want a perfectly tailored jacket. I tend to forget these after a while because I don't need them but from time to time, perhaps out of boredom, they pop back up. <br /><br />linhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00638024559737049131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4278952973244360576.post-66673817571402787012013-11-06T10:38:35.629+01:002013-11-06T10:38:35.629+01:00My motivation simply stems from the enjoyment of s...My motivation simply stems from the enjoyment of seeking out new things or bettering the things I already have. Not always bettering even, I also like variations on a theme. I have grey cashmere jumpers in all kinds of styles but they all serve different purposes for different looks and different days. And I will probably always continue to buy them - it seems to be a habit I cannot break. And let's not forget that fashion itself is a powerful force which one can be swept along with (me in particular) though I usually come back down and find myself coming back to the same old same old pieces with a little bit of longevity. In that, I take comfort and that all is not lost. <br /><br />By the way - lovely photo. Beautiful colours.Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13656222741423910557noreply@blogger.com