tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4278952973244360576.post719741285452611138..comments2024-01-11T11:41:22.827+01:00Comments on Dream On: The Spiral UpwardsAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18258704812525496584noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4278952973244360576.post-22395166452046196292014-05-05T10:43:31.227+02:002014-05-05T10:43:31.227+02:00Hi Jennifer,
Thank you for sharing your own thoug...Hi Jennifer,<br /><br />Thank you for sharing your own thoughts, it is always interesting indeed to discover other people who are following a similar self development path, and I'm happy that kind of post can foster discussion and reflections. <br /><br />I never heard of the "Stages of Change" model, but it sounds similar indeed, probably more thorough and documented, I'll definitely go take a look at their papers, see what I can learn, thanks for the recommendation.<br /><br />I see what you mean about finding a higher motivation for fostering a habit. Maybe it is also about finding an "inner" motivation, something beyond the simple objective, something bigger that participates to our overall growth as humans, and toward the meaning we want to give to our life and who we want to become. To echo your example of food habits, my food habits have really started to change when I gave up on losing "the eternal 5 kgs" and focused on getting and remaining healthy instead, so I could focus my energy on other areas of my life and relationships. However, I'm guessing this only works if we did find a higher motivation for what we do in our everyday life. Maybe that's the real challenge...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18258704812525496584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4278952973244360576.post-74007075155226828722014-05-05T10:32:46.935+02:002014-05-05T10:32:46.935+02:00Thanks for the kind note! Writing a novel is a gre...Thanks for the kind note! Writing a novel is a gret example as it necessitates to write every day. I read somewhere that a habit becomes integrated after one month, so hopefully in a few weeks it won't feel like a chore anymore :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18258704812525496584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4278952973244360576.post-41911694698620935172014-05-05T06:06:39.256+02:002014-05-05T06:06:39.256+02:00Hi Kali,
I've been reading your blog for a co...Hi Kali,<br /><br />I've been reading your blog for a couple of years now, and I just wanted to tell you that I really enjoy these personal reflections and food for thought posts. I find your honesty and dedication to self-development really refreshing. I also feel that the topics and issues you touch upon really mirror the reflections and experiences I've had with trying to find balance and navigate myself towards higher meaning and purpose in life. It's comforting to know that someone else is on a similar journey. <br /><br />The concept of "Spiral Upwards" actually reminds me of Prochaska and DiClemente's transtheoretical Stages of Change model, especially in regards to their description of relapse, which they describe as a non-linear process that is also conceptualised as a spiral process. I highly recommend looking at some of their papers on this if this area interests you.<br /><br />In terms of my own personal goals, I have found that questioning my motivations for achieving them, and then finding a way to situate them towards a higher purpose helps me to keep motivated. For example, I think there's a different intention and energy behind trying to lose weight because one wants to conform to a beauty standard (self-focused), as opposed to wanting to lost weight because you want to be healthy, which in turn, helps you to better foster growth in other areas of your life and give to others (serving-focused). Jenniferhttp://aestheticoflife.tumblr.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4278952973244360576.post-59969271400275633642014-05-03T22:25:52.918+02:002014-05-03T22:25:52.918+02:00I really love your blog. It's so inspiring. I&...I really love your blog. It's so inspiring. I'm trying to write a novel at the moment. I'm waking up at half five every day and writing for an hour before work. I've been doing it for two weeks now and it's still so hard to wake up, it still feels like a chore! But I know it's important to reward yourself once you've kept up the habit for a while. I might buy myself a nice meal out after I've stuck to it for a month. Hannah xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4278952973244360576.post-85756011491773813442014-05-03T17:03:03.240+02:002014-05-03T17:03:03.240+02:00I totally understand you in focusing on the proces...I totally understand you in focusing on the process and the every day effort rather than the end goal. I think I wrote about this some time ago with the specific example of sports in mind. As you say with veganism, when I'd imagine myself practising sports every other day for the rest of my life, it seemed daunting. Same if I focused on the long term goal of having a fitter body shape. But focusing both on the purpose, and the everyday process made it easier indeed.<br /><br />Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I always wondered how someone can radically change their food habits and never stop, as do vegetarians and vegans, thanks for sharing your own experience!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18258704812525496584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4278952973244360576.post-62045554085327863562014-05-03T16:58:30.782+02:002014-05-03T16:58:30.782+02:00Thank you so much for the link recommendation! I&#...Thank you so much for the link recommendation! I've been exploring Stone Soup and I love both their recipes and the way they present things - offering alternatives, cooking with seasonal produce and simple ingredients... I think this one will help me a lot in my quest to cook more veggies :)<br /><br />I used to get a similar type of box every week, a sort of fruit+veggie "surprise" box with organic produce from the region, and it actually made cooking veggies easier indeed, because at least you don't have to choose among all these things you never cook. Besides, it gives the motivation to find recipes. But I haven't found a similar offer in Paris yet. I'm happy to hear it's become a habit for you, I'm hoping to say the same in a few months.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18258704812525496584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4278952973244360576.post-63210730359488507052014-05-03T16:54:37.785+02:002014-05-03T16:54:37.785+02:00Thanks! I'm happy you enjoy my posts, thank yo...Thanks! I'm happy you enjoy my posts, thank you for letting me know and keeping on reading :) Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18258704812525496584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4278952973244360576.post-41540461901169722492014-05-02T10:35:06.445+02:002014-05-02T10:35:06.445+02:00think about*think about*Emma (This Kind Choice)http://thiskindchoice.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4278952973244360576.post-10510425051358828682014-05-02T10:34:29.072+02:002014-05-02T10:34:29.072+02:00When I think at major habits that I have implement...When I think at major habits that I have implemented effectively, becoming vegan and writing regularly for my blog would probably be the two main ones. They have both worked really, really well - I've only eaten something that's not vegan once in over a year, and published something on my blog at least twice a week every week (at least I so)<br />I think what made these habits fit were a few things: <br />- I was clear about why I wanted to do these things. It wasn't just because I thought I should or because other people seemed to be doing it. <br />- I set a time period for trying it out so I had a concrete period of time in which I would give it my best effort and see if it worked for me, rather than feeling like I had to do this for the rest of my life and being demotivated to give it my all (initially 1 month for veganism, but obviously I've stuck with that. And 1 year for blogging, although I can't imagine not continuing now)<br />- I really focused on the process rather than some goal. So instead of saying, I want X number of readers, I focus on each post as I write it. I think there is value in setting goals, but if we think we can only be happy when they are achieved it's a pretty miserable road getting there, which isn't very motivating. <br />I'm not sure if these apply to other habits, and maybe this comment responds more to your initial habits post, but I did enjoy reading this post! The idea of spiraling upwards is a motivating way of looking at things and continuing to try to develop habits that are important to us. Emma (This Kind Choice)http://thiskindchoice.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4278952973244360576.post-36530442193528623482014-05-02T02:05:44.192+02:002014-05-02T02:05:44.192+02:00A few years ago I decided to incorporate a lot mor...A few years ago I decided to incorporate a lot more vegies in our diet and found the following blog invaluable for ideas. <br />http://thestonesoup.com/blog/<br /><br />We buy a big box of organic vegies and fruit every Saturday and rotate a handful of quick, easy recipes during the week and experiment on the weekends. It has absolutely become a habit - I never even think about it.<br /><br />Spud.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4278952973244360576.post-59925140819305393682014-05-01T00:47:21.641+02:002014-05-01T00:47:21.641+02:00I sincerely hope you never stop writing as I don&#...I sincerely hope you never stop writing as I don't know what I would do if I couldn't read your thoughtful reflections. This was such a great read!Lisettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16455313488031502409noreply@blogger.com