tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4278952973244360576.post1776237331052443944..comments2024-01-11T11:41:22.827+01:00Comments on Dream On: Food For Thought #12 // Existential Questions EditionAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18258704812525496584noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4278952973244360576.post-49537007416592649452015-01-27T15:57:09.784+01:002015-01-27T15:57:09.784+01:00Oh it's really interesting to see other people...Oh it's really interesting to see other people going through that kind of questioning. It sounds like going to France is a dear dream of yours, I hope it works out! I agree that in the end, it comes down to having the courage to give it a go. Provided you know what it is you want to do. But it's true that within our comfortable daily life, we don't aways dare going for an adventure, it's harder to leave our comfort zone, the older we get. It reminds me of the movie "the secret life of Walter Mitty". Absolutely fantastic, and struck the hell of a cord with me (partly because I daydream a lot too, maybe?)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18258704812525496584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4278952973244360576.post-51331894144467073612015-01-27T04:44:26.280+01:002015-01-27T04:44:26.280+01:00Thanks so very much for this post - it really coul...Thanks so very much for this post - it really couldn't have come at a better time for me. I'm planning on moving to France, and that decision was really kind of a "why the hell not" thought that struck me a few months ago as I realized that I'm just totally *bored* with everything. I took a very conventional path through life, faced very few challenges, and did the proper grown-up thing by getting a cushy office job in the same city where my ass has been planted for the past 7 years. Now I'm just like... wait up, 30 is right around the corner, what have I actually *done* that's ever presented any sort of challenge?! So beyond applying to a total reach/dream school to study in a language I'm not actually totally fluent in, I'm also thinking this would be the perfect opportunity to try to switch to completely freelance work and get rid of the slacks I'm tired of wearing every day while I earn my measly 15 vacation days a year. If I wasn't so bored with everything, I'd probably continue living this way indefinitely; but I guess it all comes down to having the courage to change it, right? :) At least that's what I hope!Alexhttp://www.howtofrance.orgnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4278952973244360576.post-88368643105006626972015-01-25T09:50:40.287+01:002015-01-25T09:50:40.287+01:00I loved this idea too - do I like who I am when I ...I loved this idea too - do I like who I am when I do that - it isn't a question we often ask ourselves is it? Yet it goes for every aspect of our life, from the career we've chosen to something as trivial as binge eating a pot of ice cream in front of TV. I think it helps figuring out who we want to be, while tuning out the social norms and all. And I think it helps getting motivated to do things we don't like doing but help us toward our long term goals (like sports for example?)<br /><br />I also noticed a lot of questionings at that age - I'd say, between 25 and 35 or so? One of my university colleague decided to do some theater at 25, another left for New Zealand at 30, yet another finally left Japan despite it being her childhood dream but she wasn't happy there. My sophrologist changed careers when she was about that age too. Even without going as far as changing careers a lot of people that age seem to be questioning the established version of success around me these days. <br />But I wonder if it isn't also linked to the fact that we work as much, if not more, than our parents, but without reaping the benefits - low salaries, high rents, not as many social benefits as before, little chance of evolution within a company... I don't know how it is in the US, but here in France there is a significant drop of lifestyle for the younger generations while the older ones since enjoy their privileges, and it leads a lot of us to reconsider giving so much time and energy to a company.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18258704812525496584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4278952973244360576.post-58250623908071676112015-01-25T09:43:16.819+01:002015-01-25T09:43:16.819+01:00Thanks for letting me know! I have to admit I admi...Thanks for letting me know! I have to admit I admire you for taking on such a path. When I see how much harder it is to face my insatisfactions and try to change at 30 than it was at 20, I can't imagine how it must be at 60. However, I find it to be extremely inspiring as the path never ends until the very end :) Thanks for that I'm really touched :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18258704812525496584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4278952973244360576.post-67482142035160794802015-01-25T09:40:54.144+01:002015-01-25T09:40:54.144+01:00I agree with you! And it baffles me that this isn&...I agree with you! And it baffles me that this isn't explained to children in class. Our brains are learning, evolving, and a failure is nothing more than an opportunity to grow from it. I think a growth mindset goes along with some questioning & learning indeed, as it pushes us to evolve, whereas a fixed mindset leads you to believe you are who you are and that's immutable. I think the best perk of a growth mindset is to turn mistakes into opportunities, instead of letting them discourage us and affect our self esteem, confidence and morale.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18258704812525496584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4278952973244360576.post-38347084303506172042015-01-25T09:38:31.378+01:002015-01-25T09:38:31.378+01:00Thank you very much, I'm very touched! It is s...Thank you very much, I'm very touched! It is sometimes difficult to keep the balance between gratitude and joy for the smallest things, and questioning, thinking about bigger stuff. I'm happy if you like both aspects :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18258704812525496584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4278952973244360576.post-53806376665314037872015-01-24T18:39:54.562+01:002015-01-24T18:39:54.562+01:00Lovely links, I especially liked the one about &qu...Lovely links, I especially liked the one about "do I like who I am when I'm doing this?". That's an excellent barometer that I'll definitely have to use. <br />I feel you on the existential crisis. I've found that a lot of my friends (we're all in our mid to late twenties) are starting to ask questions like this, and it's been difficult. Of course, we all joke that we're just in the midst of a quarter-life crisis :) They're important questions though, and not easily answered. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00413377943169576514noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4278952973244360576.post-46633348508676687172015-01-24T00:22:42.189+01:002015-01-24T00:22:42.189+01:00This post really spoke to me as i am really taking...This post really spoke to me as i am really taking on many of the issues raised in this post. At the age of 61 I realize it is "now or never" and the project of letting go of all the other "bees" to focus on the your big thing or dream, or the person you want to be. I have manifested"grit when it came to my career, family responsibilities but never my own desire to be a creative person in the world. Lots of food for thought indeed.<br />Accidental Icon<br />http://www.accidentalicon.com<br />Accidental Iconhttp://www.accidentalicon.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4278952973244360576.post-67571625363989289432015-01-23T20:09:08.195+01:002015-01-23T20:09:08.195+01:00I have found the concepts of 'growth mindset&#...I have found the concepts of 'growth mindset' and 'fixed mindset' to be life changing. One of the things I love about growth mindset is that you can practice it in any circumstance even if there are still a lot of self questions to be answered. In fact doesn't growth mindset go along with questioning/learning, I believe it might.<br /> engagedblisshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03840654511023561283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4278952973244360576.post-70974071197717941342015-01-22T15:04:22.280+01:002015-01-22T15:04:22.280+01:00Thank you very much for these links! I am looking ...Thank you very much for these links! I am looking forward to making myself a cup of tee and reading/watching them. I am really in love with your blog because there is so much mindfulness in it. I really like how you keep addressing the small things that make life wonderful while still keeping the bigger ambitions in mind.Katjanoreply@blogger.com